A Hard Days' Night

Been having a rough time lately folks, sorry I haven't updated in a while. I had surgery, still in stitches, actually. There have been so many things going on in my life lately and yet it all feels pretty meaningless.

As I sit here, halfway through this glass of wine, I'm pondering what I've done in my life, and what I'm willing to do, as well. So this blog is mostly me thinking aloud, if you will, and some of you may already be clicking away, and that's fine.

Now I know that this isn't my regular saucy post, but it's still me regardless.

In five years, I would like to have a home, a new car and someone to share it with, if at all possible. I come home at night to my dog, and while I'm beyond happy to see him, he can only fill so much of the void I feel. I've thought about getting back on stage, getting back into the comedy world.. maybe even produce some mini-series.. heck, I even tried awhile back if any of you remember, but we couldn't get our cast and crew to really put forth an effort, so we had to nix the project. I was deeply upset by it, but not because it was a failed effort (although that was part of it) but also because I had entrusted these people with my creative "baby" so to speak and they put it on the sidelines as if it weren't important to them. And I'm no Tracy Ullman. I can't do an entire show by myself. I mean, I could obviously try, but it wouldn't be very interesting.

This is a recurring theme in my life and I wish I knew how to correct it. If you have any ideas, please feel free to message me and let me know.

But I find myself, all too many times, putting much more faith in people than they end up being worth. I'm not saying that to be rude; I'm saying it to be honest with you and myself. People constantly let me down and yet I constantly let them. Maybe there is a romantic inside me, thinking that someone out there will appreciate the love and dedication that goes into making something work (whether it be a mini-series, a love relationship, a work relationship, a friendship, etc)..

So is it silly to expect anything from another human being? Maybe. But when I embark on a new venture, everyone who is along for the ride gets super stoked, but they all fall along the wayside and move on rather quickly.

Nobody is as passionate about your passion as you are, and I understand that, whole-heartedly. But why the interest and then sudden disinterest? Upset because creating entertainment takes a lot of hard work and dedication? Taking all the fun out of the end product by seeing the inner workings of how it becomes something?

It just dawned on me in this blog how much the entertainment business is like a relationship. Everyone is constantly trying to be remembered. To be the last thought in your mind before you go to bed at night. I'm starting to think it's the one thing that unites every human being on this planet.

Nobody wants to be forgotten. And if you have no one there to say "How could I ever forget you?" then there is a void in your existence.

I have no one like that. I feel that void in my life. I want to know someone will love me, regardless of my many quirks and kinks.

So, will I be forgotten? Will you be forgotten? Does it hurt your heart to think about it? If it does, then pour yourself a glass of red wine and have a toast with me. I wont forget you, friend.

What Is Love?

Ok, so I put that title because I love Night at the Roxbury, but seriously!?!

Guys, pay attention. Girls, tell me if I'm right..

We're brought up with fairy tales of the down-n-out girl who is swept away by Prince Charming... sure sometimes they have to kiss a few frogs in the process, but she ends up "happily ever after"..

Can it actually happen? Can a woman find a man these days who really and truly completes her?

We don't want to feel like we've settled.. that feeling sucks. We need to be wowwed. We need to be woo'd.
Believe it or not, some of us actually still believe in true love and fairy tales and happily ever after.

At this point in the blog, someone (a scrooge) is rolling their eyes and telling me to get real, grow up, etc.

No. I will not. I want a love story. I want an amazing adventure that I can pass to generations after me. One that is worthy of a movie or a fairy tale book. Some people think this is unrealistic. Why? Because we work and have jobs? Because that's not "how it works"..?

Well if someone wants me, they have to enter my fairy tale, romanticized world and be a Prince Charming.

"Nice tits" doesn't get you there. Sure, it's nice to know someone likes your body, but that's the most superficial thing you could come up with...

Guys, if you like a girl--tell her something you like about her that other people think is unusual.

Guys tell me all the time that they think it's awesome that I'm a nerdy gamer girl, but there is way more to me than just that. I also love the cello, a good story, sword fights in movies, animals, rain and how I look when it's just me sitting around the house in my sweats.

There are a million things you can say to a woman to make her go "aww" and blush. Try telling her the truth. When you see her, do you get butterflies? Tell her. Be romantic. We don't care about "how hard" we make you if we don't know your name.. again, nice to hear we're attractive enough to turn you on, but that's nothing special on your end.

Show us that you're paying attention. Work for it. If you want us, don't be too shy or too forward. Do something memorable and romantic, so we can't forget you.

I'm honestly starting to think romance is dead. If we can't show people how we really feel, then why develop so many ways to communicate?

xoxo,
jess

The White Rabbit

Sooooo... I'm sure you've all seen and/or read Alice in Wonderland.

But have you ever stopped to think what could've been the driving force behind the story? Well, here is a glance at what it could've been.

Fair warning: THIS STORY is NOT for the faint of heart. If you think you can handle it, click the book cover below.

Wanna Be a Loser With Me? :D Yay!

So, here are my favorite things.. I use GetGlue.. and I check in a few times a week... so check it out, see what we jive on! :D


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Justice for Trayvon Martin

So as you guys know, I like to keep you up to date with the things that get under my skin. Here is another one.

Trayvon Martin was a seventeen year old boy. He went with his father to visit someone and went to 7-11 to buy skittles and iced tea. When he didn't return, his father got worried and called around. Finally, he called the police and had to identify his son's corpse through graphic pictures.

What happened, you ask?

Well, 28 year old George Zimmerman gunned him down. Zimmerman was acting as a "neighborhood watch captain" and had apparently spotted the young boy returning home and phoned it into police that Trayvon looked "real suspicious"...

This is one of the sweetest looking teenagers I know of.. he doesn't strike me as being a person to raise suspicion.

The police dispatcher told Zimmerman that a police unit was on its' way and not to pursue Trayvon. Yet he blatantly disregarded the dispatcher, following Trayvon and ultimately murdering him in cold blood.

Witnesses who heard the incident happening state that they heard the boy screaming for help. The sound of his cries for help were followed by a gun shot, and then silence.

When police arrived at the scene, Trayvon was lying face-down in the grass with a fatal gunshot wound to the chest. Zimmerman was standing, with blood on his face and grass stains on his clothes. 

Even though Trayvon was buried on 03 March 2012, Zimmerman has yet to be charged with anything.

A lot of you know I used to be military police. There is an escalation of force. You DO NOT use a firearm as your first line of defense. Although Zimmerman and the Sanford, FL police department don't seem to care about that... Zimmerman actually said it was in SELF DEFENSE.

I call the bullshit flag on this one. How can it be self defense, when you're the one in pursuit?

The Florida police department claims that their investigation is color blind, but I think something is wrong with this picture. If it had been the other way around, you bet your ass Trayvon would be locked up right this very second. Zimmerman has a history of violence; he assaulted a police officer back in 2005 and was arrested for it, yet the police department says he has a clean record. 

In addition to the Sanford police department letting the murderer walk away, the officer in charge of the crime scene is in charge of another controversial case. In 2010, one of their lieutenant's sons was filmed beating a black homeless man. The police didn't arrest the boy, when the crime was reported.. but after the tape was released on the local news, they arrested him.

So this goes to show you the power of media and the power of people banning together for justice.

This video is from a Virginia Beach comic, who goes by the name of Felonious Munk. He was the one who made this known to me, and now I am sharing it with you.

I hope you'll join us and help find justice for a child that is now gone.. just because of one man's actions that have been kept private by the Sanford police department. 

407-688-5070 - Sanford Police Department

Demand justice, demand answers.

 You can also hear the 911 call here -

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/03/16/trayvon-martin-911-audio-_n_1354909.html